“Thirty-Seconds to Control Yourself
& Influence Others.”
· 1. Me: “Want power over others who try to control you?”
· 2. You: “Not particularly. I’m Ok with how I am.”
· 3. Me: “Self-Control is important because you are being hit-on all day at
home, at work & by the media. They want to influence you to be a good
Robot, an obedient Cyborg.
· How? Do what they say, buy what they advertise, pay higher taxes to the
government. The Power Brokers want you to love what they say, and hate their
identified enemies.”
· 4. You: “Stop. I’m a happy camper so leave me alone. And what does
control have to do with SpeedReading101.org anyway. I hate philosophy &
theory. I need skills & know-how.”
· 5. Me: “A study dated, 11.02.13 by Prof. Rimma Teper, University of
Toronto, Scarborough offers scientific proof
either you control your “thoughts
& emotions, or you become their “Wooden-Soldier”. Do you want to be a
Drone?”
· 6. You: “What I want is to
go-my-own-way, run my own life, huh?”
· 7. Me: “Would you go to the Beach in August without Suntan lotion? Drive
across town without knowing how much GAS in your tank?”
· 8. You: “Alright, what’s their take-away on improving my self-control?”
· 9. Me: “Fact: this research appears November, 2013 in the Journal
Emotion. That means it has been peer- reviewed and is scientifically
on-the-money. Got Proof.”
· Normal folks are affected by Positive Feedback From Others. See, they
influence you. That means you ignore “immediate rewards” and are LESS Impulsive.”
· 10. You: “Getting warmer, I train my kids to not act on Impulse, but stop
& analyze. But I don’t want to dominate others, and they can’t push me
around.”
· 11. Me: “the UT research shows:
“Mindful people have a skill of letting their feelings-and-thoughts go without
judgments. I’ll explain what makes you Mindful, it’s easy and important.
And you don’t trigger anger & rage easily.”
· 12. You: “That sounds useful, if it’s not too much work.”
· 13. Me: “Mindfulness” is paying attention, awareness
in-the-present-moment, to your breathing in a simple meditation exercise. Takes
less than one-minute. Why? If you learn to accept your own Emotions,
you’re in control of your Mind & feelings.
· Example: Casino Gamblers show brains that are Impulsive and in denial.
They react to immediate rewards by betting more until they bust out. It’s a
form of Chronic Stress. Their judgment is impaired by their feelings.”
· 14. You: “Got it. Give me the steps to self-control. This works for
students taking exams, going for an interview, and making a presentation too
right? It’s just Consciousness.”
· 15. Me: “Smart. It’s not a One-Trick-Pony. Use it to ACE school, win work-promotions,
& relationships.
· It’s baby-easy, so don’t laugh it off because it’s “Common-Sense.”
· 16. You: “Start”
· 17. Me: “Keep it simple, 1-2-3. Sit down, feet flat, & close your
eyes. Deep relaxation is the first step. Now to relax your
Mind-Body-Connection, Diaphragmatically Breathe for 30-seconds.”
· 18. You: “How?”
· 19. Me: “Step-one. Hand on your Belly Button and deep breath. A diaphragmatic-breath,
and feel the movement of your stomach. Now exhale and HUM the following 4x:
· Hum-m, Hum-m, Hum-m, & Hum-m four-times. Another three Diaphragmatic
breaths, with four Hums each. Total of 16-Hum-ms and you are in ALPHA brainwave
relaxation.”
· 20. You: “That’s easy enough, and
it does relax me. Am I hypnotized yet?”
· 21. Me: “It’s auto-suggestion”, your Executive brain giving suggestions
to your mind-body connection.
· Step – two: Place a S-M-I-L-E intentionally on your face for the length
of this exercise. It doubles your memory & learning skills. Smiling is
showing your teeth & squinting your eyes. Why? Activates Peripheral Vision
& relaxing.”
· 22. You: “Eyes opened or closed?”
· 23. Me: “Closed eyes puts you mind into Alpha brainwaves and deep
relaxation.
· Last, Step-three: daydream (mental visualization) a past experience where
you triumphed. It’s called a Historical-Success. Getting a Diploma, a birthday
party, or your first date.
· Summation: Inhale through your nose, exhale from your mouth. Hum-m aloud
as you exhale. Now Smile eyes & mouth, and see mentally & feel how you
felt in a past successful experience.”
· 24. You: “And the whole thing is about one-minute? I can do that. The end
result is not reacting to my emotion of the moment, and more self-control. How
long does It last?”
· 25. Me: “Four-hours, and you can do it again as required.
You see the Big-Picture, the CONTEXT
of the situation by this one-minute exercise. Good Return on Investment – ROI.”
P.S.
a)
“The faster you learn, the more your
EARN.”
b) “You SNOOZE, you lose.”
See ya,
Copyright © 2013, Bernard Wechsler
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